It is the time of year where people start thinking about Love. Valentines day is just around the corner, and we’re being unindated by hearts, cupids, and visions of red.
I love February for many reasons. Valentine’s Day is not one of those reasons. It is this time of year when we start getting hit with requests for Love Potions, spells, brews, etc. We’re use to it. We have endless numbers of all of the above.
I’ll be the first to admit I love falling in love. I love being in love. I love love! It is the most awesome feeling! I wish the happiness for everyone. What I don’t wish for everyone is…love potions, spells, brews, etc. They are far to dangerous for John Q. Public, because they are so often mis-used.
We follow the strict tenant of “Harm None” in our belief system. Love spells….harm many. People don’t think before they use them. They want so-and-so to fall in love with them. They don’t like being alone. They know if so-and-so would just spend some time with them…. I know all the reasons for wanting to do a love spell. I’ve heard them, or thought them. I also know the one main reason for NOT doing a love spell – Free Will.
When a love spell is done with a specific person in mind, you remove their free will from the equation. You exert you will over them. At which time “Harm None” becomes void. You cannot go in to a love spell wanting so-and-so to fall in love with you. It is the most dangerous, and unethical way to go about it. Not only will you end up hurting the person, but you’ll also end up hurting yourself.
If you’ve ever watched the movie “The Craft,” you’ve seen a glimpse of what can go wrong. Yes, I know, it is a movie and what they show is a bit over the top. It can happen though. You don’t know what affect your spell will have on the person. Do you really want to take a chance?
The great thing about life is, it really does want you to find love. The whole mythos of having an ‘other,’ or ‘split apart,’ or ‘soulmate,’ is realistic. We need to feel whole, needed, wanted, loved, or we wouldn’t search so hard for it. The person we choose for ourselves, is not always “the one!” We often learn this the hard way, because we rush.
In a world filled with divorce, and broken relationships, do we really want to rush? Mr/Mrs. Right could because our nightmare by rushing in and not thinking about what we need. The best love spells are created so we draw what we need to us, not what we want at the time. Our wants change, but our needs will always remain steady. We just have to know ourselves, and what we truly want, before attempting a Love Spell.
Remember spell crafting is all about intention. Knowing what we need in a relationship is part of that intention. Asking for someone who is handsome is a want. Asking for someone who is stable in their job, is a need. The universe knows what you want. It knows it before you do. It is looking to you for guidance on what you need.
For example, in my life, I need someone who is above average intelligience, holds all life sacred, is willing to put themselves under public scrutiny no matter the cost, an infallible honesty, a slightly warped sense of humor, and holds the belief work is the ultimate equalizer. These are things which are important to me. Deal breakers so to speak.
When I first started on the magick path, some 30+ years ago. I had a Love Spell, or Potion, which was my favorite to create for my friends. Then one day while mixing it I really read the words. It stopped me in my tracks! The spell is beautiful. The ingredients are fun. The words, are dangerous. I share it here ONLY to make a point. Please, never use this spell unless you rewrite it! The Spell is Love Potion #7:
Three hearts of precious wild pink rose
That under sun and starlight grows;
Three silver spoons of honey gold
Awaken powers of the old;
Three silver spoons of brandy wine,
You shall be mind, you shall be mine;
You shall be mine ’til you I free
This is my will, so shall it be!
Even without using a persons name, or thinking of a specific individual, this spell takes away a persons free will. You’re exerting your will, fully. It is more dangerous than saying, “I wish so-and-so would fall madly in love with me.” A wish is just a request to the universe, you shall be mine is a command.
So, this Valentines season, while you’re thinking of love, or the lack of, be careful. A well meaning spell can spell disaster if done the wrong way, for the wrong reasons. And, not all spells can be recalled, or nullified, once sent out. Are you really ready to live with the consequences?
Take care, and Blessed Be!